Ask Becca, The Messenger’s Advice Columnist


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Q: I don’t fit in with any groups in my grade. What should I do?

A: I think it’s perfectly fine not to fit in. Just because you don’t have everything in common with someone, doesn’t mean you can’t still be friends with them. Try to find common ground. Maybe you both like the same music or you both have the same favorite class. You could even try to find someone whose personality complements yours. If you’re very energetic, befriend someone who is more level-headed; they will keep you grounded. You also don’t have to just be friends with the students in your grade. Join clubs and take electives that you really like and you will most likely meet other students who enjoy the same things as you.

If you still feel like you can’t connect with anyone, just be yourself. Conforming is the biggest injustice to you. Be confident in who you are. Start doing things that truly interest you and that you enjoy. Don’t worry what other people think about you because the only things that truly matter are what you think of you and what God thinks of you. Most importantly, focus on your school work. You shouldn’t let this distract you from doing your best in all that you do. School isn’t just a place to socialize, you’re here to learn. The majority of people you meet in high school, you won’t see afterwards. They’re a part of your life for only four years and in retrospect, that isn’t much. Don’t let it get you down.

Keep in mind that God created you just the way you are. He designed you and deposited in you all of the talents and passions you have. Isaiah 64:8 says, “Yet you, LORD, are our Father. We are the clay, you are the potter; we are all the work of your hand.” Maybe you don’t fit in with your peers, but in God’s eyes, you are exactly how He imagined you.

Best, Becca


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